Are you old enough to remember “the carefree days of childhood” or “a happy childhood”? Once upon a time these were common phrases, but you don’t hear them very often today. According to a recent study released by San Diego State University, there is a sharp generational rise in youth depression, anxiety, and mental disorders in the United States.

It’s hard to imagine a time in history when children were more coddled, indulged, or protected, and yet, according to this study, there are five to eight times as many young people suffering from major depression and anxiety today than a half-century ago. Obviously, children raised in the Depression era and World War II had very different lives. By all measures of today’s accepted parenting metrics these children should have been depressed, or at least, had anxiety issues. You certainly can’t say life was less stressful in the first half of the twentieth century. The increase in the safety and health of our children alone would bring some sort of stability by comparison, wouldn’t it?

Unfortunately, that’s not what is happening. In fact, our children have been on a downhill slide for decades.

Peter Gray is quick to point out in an article in Psychology Today that this most recent evidence indicating the rise in our young people’s depression and mental disorders has nothing to do with diagnostic changes. Gray offers parents hope with his clear insight into what children are missing–and it’s not what you would expect.

First Gray explains,

One thing we know about anxiety and depression is that they correlate significantly with people’s sense of control or lack of control over their own lives. People who believe that they are in charge of their own fate are less likely to become anxious or depressed than are those who believe that they are victims of circumstances beyond their control.

Your first thought might be, what kid has control over his own life? Well, I’ve seen a few and it’s not pretty. But that’s not what the author is talking about. Children shouldn’t have control over their own lives. They don’t get to choose whether or not they are going to school, whom they must associate with or what teacher they have. Realistically, there is very little that a child should have control over.

Except in his playtime. That is, if he ever gets to actually play. The startling fact is that too many parents have squeezed the free play time right out of their children’s lives.

In our quest to give our children the richest possible academic experiences at the earliest possible ages — playdates followed by organized sports and endless lessons — we’ve inadvertently taken one very important ingredient out of childhood: time to play completely on their own.

Children need time away from direct adult supervision and parental control. According to Gray, we are “depriving them of opportunities to learn how to take control of their own lives.”

We may think we are protecting them, but in fact we are diminishing their joy, diminishing their sense of self-control, preventing them from discovering and exploring the endeavors they would most love, and increasing the chance that they will suffer from anxiety, depression, and various other mental disorders.

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